I'm guessing it's because you want to  improve your dating life  or your social skills around women and  that's completely natural  you should want to date amazing women  because when you meet the right type of  girl  the one that just vibes with you,  appreciates your quirks, your sense of humor. It's awesome having  chemistry with a genuinely good girl  that's into you  is one of the best feelings in the world  however there are gonna be times when  you bump into the wrong types of women  the kind who might look to be your exact  type physically  but if you knew who she was on the  inside you'd run away immediately. So today we're gonna answer the question  how do we identify  these types of girls you want to avoid  at all costs  more specifically, we're gonna go through  seven specific red flags that  if you can recognize in a girl.


1. Woman with daddy issues :



     Let's get straight to it  number one women with daddy issues  are and let me clarify what i mean by this, see when a girl is born  her, dad is like her first male role  model he's the first man that she gives  and receives love from so in a lot of ways her relationship  with her father is the most  important one.  Because it was the first  one and it sets the tone  for how she'll relate to other guys  later on in her life. If she has a father who treats her with  respect always supporting her  and is generally a good dependable dad. She'll have a much healthier view on how  men are in general  she'll be more trusting of them since  she knows there are some good men in the  world  on the other hand if she had a terrible  relationship with her dad  then that will have an equally powerful  impact on her but in a bad way.  For example, if her dad was way too  overprotective. She might be wary of guys in the future  trying to control her  so she might act out and do crazy things  just to affirm her independence. If her dad yelled at her a lot or was  even physically abusive that she might  have long lasting trauma  that affects how she can relate to other  men. If her boyfriend raises  his voice  even the slightest bit, she might break  down and start having flashbacks  of bad memories with her father. You see  a girl that has a terrible relationship  with her dad  is a huge red flag because a poor role  model in a father means that she won't  know what to look for in a man  since she never had that caring  masculine presence in her life. She won't know how to identify good men  from toxic men. She might hold resentment towards all  men because her initial experience with  one  her dad tainted her perception and it  could be really hard for her to get over  those past  daddy issues.  She needs to deal with her own  destructive behaviors before  putting another man on the receiving end  of her trauma  so take this as a red flag and run away. 


2. Women who always end up with the bad boy: 



    I know it's a bit of a stereotype that  nice guys finish last and that girls love a bad boy and  to an extent this is true  especially when we're younger but  there's a difference between a girl who  can appreciate  the mysterious exciting nature of a bad  boy and a girl who only goes for bad boys at a certain  point.  When she's venting to you about  how she always ends up with low quality  guys who hurt her  then that either means she's a poor  judge of character or it means this is  truly her preference. Now, if you want to  keep things casual with this girl and  not looking to seriously date her then i  guess this red flag isn't as much of a  deal  but if you're looking at this woman as  girlfriend or wifey material. Someone you're gonna commit to long term  then you're gonna be in for a bad time  from my experience. There's always a lot  of drama involved with women like this  because of her tendency to be attracted  to people and things that are bad for  her  so this is another red flag you  definitely need to be aware of it.


3.Girls who are addicted to  social media:



    This is a huge one for me personally and  a pet peeve of mine. There are few things that turn me off  more than a girl  who literally can't put her phone down  even during important life events. Reason being girls who use social media  all the time crave attention  and validation way too much and since  she uses social media  as a way to gain approval and validation  from her peers. It means that those artificial numbers  on the screen constitute a big part of  her self-esteem  her self-image and so it's this nasty  downward spiral. She's hooked on the validation the likes  the comments  they feed her ego her self-esteem and so  now  she needs to maintain her online personal in order to keep up the steady supply of  likes that make her feel high  which only increases her dependence on  it. This is why i always compare women  who are addicted to social media  to guys who are addicted to porn because  both give you a temporary  virtual high it tickles you in those  pleasure centers in your brain. But it ultimately does nothing to  actually better  your life so definitely take notice if  your date is constantly scrolling  through instagram on your first date cause it's a big red  flag.


4. if she already has a  boyfriend :



    This sounds obvious  but you'd be surprised how many guys still go for girls who are flirting with  them even though they already have a  boyfriend. It's probably because most  guys think with the wrong head if you  know what i mean.  So let's say you meet a girl through  some friends you ask her out on a dinner date and she says yes  then once you two are at the restaurant. She admits to you that  she has a boyfriend but she still wants  to be friends  well if a girl would go on a date with a  dude who made it clear that it was a  date  then tries to get him to be her friend  instead you know what that tells me. It tells me that she secretly playing  the field  while she has a boyfriend and she's  trying to line up potential  backup plans in case her current  relationship doesn't work  out and even if things magically do work  out between you and her. Let's say she breaks up with her  boyfriend cause she likes you more  well there's nothing stopping her from  doing the exact same thing to you  once she meets another guy,  she likes  more than you so next time a girl is flirty or goes on a date with you even  when she's  already in a relationship take that as a  huge red flag.


5. Women who are flakes :



    This one is actually a pet  peeve of mine  not just with women but with people in  general if you're not aware of what a  flake is  basically it's someone who tells you  they're gonna be somewhere  but then they don't show up. For example, if she agrees over  text to meet you somewhere for a date  but then on the day of it. She doesn't  show up and  ignores all your texts i'm pretty sure i  don't need to tell you that  trust is such an important aspect of a  strong healthy relationship. When a girl flakes on you without  even letting you know  she's telling you that she's  untrustworthy and i think in general  when someone flakes on other people a  lot  it communicates something about them on  a deeper level that they fail to follow  through  on their commitments. A girl or guy who  flakes under dates  also tend to flake on their other  commitments whether it's her employer  her friends even her own family maybe  you never want to be committed to  someone who's scared of that word  so take flaking as one of the biggest  red flags.


6. She's way too focused on the  external things :



     If this girl that you're seeing only  wants to talk about external  materialistic things like career  what type of clothes she likes and just  overall flashy things like cars and  jewelry  that to me personally is a big red flag.  Vain women are never very interesting  and they lack a certain depth  a centeredness that's very important to  their femininity  an even bigger red flag is when they  focus on external things when it comes  to you  especially like if she's way more  interested in your external attributes  how much money you make  with serialistic things like that  instead of your inner qualities like  your values  how you treat people less fortunate  being playful and fun. 


7. Having way too many guy friends :



     This one is almost a bit  related to number four  but when a girl has an insane number of  guy friends not just a few. It also tells me that she might be  keeping her options open  based on personal experience. A lot of  her guy friends might secretly like her  but they're too afraid to actually ask  her out and risk getting rejected  so they settle for being her guy buddy  friend zoning themselves basically  and the thing is most of the time girls  know that these guy friends of hers  might have feelings for her but she  doesn't mind. Because she likes the  attention  the self-esteem boost and again she  might be keeping one of these guys  around as a potential backup boyfriend.if things don't work out with her  current partner and even worse these  guys might be super protective of her  because  as we just mentioned they secretly want  to get with her but  lack the courage to ask her out. She  might be stringing these guys along for  her own benefit, so her guy friends might treat you with  extra hostility  or maybe even outright try to sabotage  things between you and her. So keep this in the back of your mind if  the girl you're seeing has a bunch of  almost  exclusively guy friends as it may very  well be a red flag.