Here we see the common characteristics of charmers and some specific strategies you can use to charm anyone. The word charm comes from the Latin root 'carmen' which means song, but also implies like the casting of a magical spell which makes sense. You see when you successfully charm someone it really is like them falling under a spell charmers are able to hold their targets attention and fascinate them. They never argue or complain instead they draw others in making people emotionally dependent. Charmers do this by catering to a person's ego, their self-esteem. There's a quote somewhere that reads, 'Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours'. The charmer doesn't go overboard with this however since that would be too obvious. So, here are three specific strategies you can use to tap into your inner charmer and seduce almost anyone or any girl.
1. Make her center of attention :
It is to be a source of pleasure by making her the center of attention who have lots of charm know how to deflect attention away from themselves and focus it on others instead. They're good listeners and observers. They let their targets talk revealing more about themselves in the process and as charmers find out more about their strengths and their weaknesses. They individualize their attention to appeal to that specific person's desires and needs a charmer listens to someone's complaints but more importantly distracts them from their problems by giving pleasure. He knows that being energetic lighthearted and fun is always more charming than being serious or critical. The charmer tailors his compliments to the person's insecurities. He adapts to their spirit and empathizes with their woes to make them feel bigger and better and validating their sense of self-worth. He makes them feel like the star of the show.
An example of a charmer who mastered this ability to make others into the center of attention was Benjamin Disraeli who became prime minister of England in 1874. At the time queen Victoria was depressed and withdrawn having lost her husband a few years ago. Everyone around her made her feel like she was either too inexperienced or uneducated to do anything without her husband's advice plus politics bored her to death. As tradition demanded after coming into power as the prime minister Israeli came to the palace for a private meeting with the queen. Benjamin Israeli didn't have the typical look of a prime minister. He was jewish had dark skin and was pretty exotic looking by english standards and he had written a few popular romantic novels as well the queen on the other hand was formal and simple in her dressing style desrarly was advised to curb his natural elegance but instead he did the exact opposite. He appeared before her almost like a prince falling to one knee taking her hand and kissing it. He pledged that his job now was to realize queen Victoria's dreams. He praised her qualities so much that she ended up blushing and yet she didn't find any of this behavior to be offensive instead she was smiling, afterwards maybe I should give this strange man a chance she thought soon he began sending her reports on policy issues, parliament debates etc,. He wrote the reports in such an informal flowery language addressing her as fairy queen.
2. Lulling them into ease and comfort :
Charm is almost like a hypnotist trick where he swings a watch in front of your eyes. The more relaxed someone is the easier it is to charm them. The key to making your target feel comfortable is to mirror her adapting to her moods. People are naturally narcissistic, they're drawn to those who are most similar to themselves. If you seem to share her values and tastes to understand their spirit, they'll fall under your spell and your charm. For example, Let's say you're an outsider traveling to a different country and you meet a girl. Uf you go out of your way to show her that you share her values maybe you learn their language, engage in their customs. It's immensely charming because this preference is a choice not something you were born into.
3. Staying calm in the face of Adversity :
Charming people never seem too emotionally flustered about anything, they always seem to exude this calm centered energy. You see when there's adversity and setbacks that's actually the perfect setting for charm, showing a calm unbothered, exterior in the face of difficulties puts people at ease. Never show anger of course ill-temper or vengefulness, all those disruptive emotions will make people defensive. When you're trying to charm a large group, welcome adversity as a chance to show how charming poise can be never whine, never complain and never try to justify yourself in a sticky situation. You can let other people get flustered or upset the contrast to your calmness and poise will work to your favor. Two years ago, i was out in Florida for a vacation with a girl i was dating at the time who we'll call. We decided to go hiking in the woods carrying some gear but we quickly became lost. We quickly began to panic and she was one of those anxious types that really didn't handle situations. I stayed calm throughout the whole ordeal and never freaked out or gotten angry or defensive. She said it was one of the most charming things about me. I just made her feel that way with my relaxed demeanor.
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