Today, I'm gonna tell you how you can introduce yourself to a girl in a way that's not only socially calibrated smooth and non-offensive but is going to make you seem cool and high value.
I'm gonna do this by breaking down different scenarios in which you'd see a cute girl, you didn't know and then how you should go about approaching her. For example, let's start with a girl who's walking down the street in the downtown area of your local city and you see a super cute girl wearing an elegant sundress strolling down the opposite side of the block. What do you do? How do you approach her? I'll tell you what you don't do. You don't approach her from the side, meaning from a 90 degree angle. Why is this such a bad idea? It's because people are evolved to sense danger from their periphery vision that's why they call it a blind spot. If you approach a girl that's walking from a 90 degree angle from the side, it's almost a guarantee that you're gonna startle her and let me tell you it's almost impossible to save an interaction once you've already startled her. So remember to never approach her from the side. What you want to do, instead is to walk along with her in the same direction side by side, parallel, ideally you'd even be half a step ahead of her. So that she can see you and you don't catch her off guard then you simply turn to her making eye contact, smile and say 'Hi'. Remember, a good approach seems as natural as possible like you didn't go out of your way to stop her.
Now, if she's just casually strolling not seeming like she's in a rush, i'd also suggest approaching in this parallel way but you have to remember to get her attention. A lot of guys will say 'hey' in this meek voice and the girl won't even hear you, then he'll just make up something in his head like 'oh damn!', she's ignoring me. guess, she's not interested. When in reality, she literally just couldn't hear you or wasn't aware you were trying to get her attention. You can even casually tap on her shoulder or hand wave over to her as long as you don't do it from behind and startle her at the end of the day. You have to get comfortable and not overthink harmless social tactics like tapping a girl on the shoulder to get her attention, it's not creepy. In fact, if someone in front of you dropped their wallet but was wearing headphones so they couldn't hear you calling out to them. You'd probably tap them on the shoulder too, so this is a normal thing and again don't over think it. Now, let's talk about another scenario. What if the girl is sitting down somewhere like on a park bench, well a huge mistake that guys will make in this scenario is that they'll just walk up right to her stand there and start talking to her. Now think what's wrong with this situation, well he's literally talking down to her as long as she's sitting and you're standing the more uncomfortable and forced the interaction feels. It feels like you're approaching you, don't want it to seem like an approach. You want to make it feel as spontaneous as possible like she just happened to bump into a really cool guy like things just naturally progressed and all of a sudden, she's kissing you on a date.
I suggest this, if you go up to a girl that's sitting smile and say hi say something you noticed about her that you thought was interesting and see how she responds. If she's clearly giving you negative body language like avoiding eye contact or a one-word sentence as a reply then i suggest to leave her alone. But the moment she asks you a question back, the moment she starts to invest a little bit back into the interaction. Sit down, after all she wouldn't ask you a question unless part of her wanted you to stay right. If she wanted you gone, she'd barely say a word the last thing she'd do is ask a question so sit down when she does this. Because, it makes a huge difference to the energy of the vibe and will make her want to see you again. If you're worried you'll look needy or too straightforward by sitting down what you can even do is something called a time constraint to make it seem like you have somewhere to be but you have two minutes to chat with this lovely lady like 'Hey i gotta go in a minute' , but sure yeah i'll answer your question or something like that this way you seem like a cool normal guy who has stuff going on in his life but just taking a moment to talk to her which will make her feel way better about talking to you.
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