A lot of guys want to  get a girlfriend  or attract more women they should just  be themselves. In order to get a girl, no you would tell him that he needs to get  his act together and focus on being an  attractive  high-value man before he should even  worry about finding a girl. so with that being said here are five  common behaviors that  the majority of these kinds of  high-value men have.  I think that a lot of them are good  qualities to have in general  not just for being attractive to women  so if you feel like you lack any of the ones, you can work on improving this  quality within yourself. 


1. Being on your purpose :



    You spend a lot of time  volunteering  at some wildlife conservation center see  when you don't have purpose,  you're a lot more likely to become needy  with women since you don't have anything  going on in your life.  You're gonna make her the center of your  life. She'll sense that low value  behavior  like you have way too much time and  energy on your hands and you're pouring  it all on her  and she'll be massively turned off by it  on the other hand when you do have a  strong sense of purpose  like a career.  You're passionate about or  a social cause that you're involved in  and you know what you want out of life  and you're on that path to fulfilling  your purpose,  you'll start to treat your time as  valuable right. You won't have the mental  capacity  or the time to be needy with any girl  since you have  other important things going on that  demand your attention and time  and of course i'm not suggesting that  you be so on your purpose that you don't  actually get to spend time with her. Balance is key of course but having a  healthy sense of purpose  will make you more confident and  centered in yourself  something that women love in men.



2. Competence :


   I chose to include this one for purpose because it's a bit  related but not necessarily the same  thing  right well having purpose is knowing the  direction in your life that you're  headed towards having competence means you'll actually  figure out a way to get there.  Competence means you have basic problem  solving skills  like you can take charge of a situation  and not screw it up. I see many guys that have these  ambitious goals that they work towards  like  being a millionaire but sadly they lack  the competence to actually achieve that  goal.  You see it's not very hard to be within  the top 15 percent of men,  you know why because on average most  guys aren't extremely competent. The reason for lack of competence  is because they don't even care to  improve themselves.  

 Women are pretty much  universally attracted to competent men. I mean think about it from her perspective  right 1 000 years ago, women couldn't  vote right. They couldn't own land, they couldn't hold any positions of  power or own real businesses. If a woman wanted to better her life  what could she do  well she pretty much had two choices. Number one, she could marry into wealth  or power,  meaning the duke, the prince, the lord  whatever high  noble positions there were or number two, if she had to marry someone from her  local village, she wanted to make sure he was competent  that he could figure things out and  get things done so that he could provide  her and her children with a better life. Women have carried this  mentality as a part of their female  psychology  for the hundreds of years since then  meaning that to this day  they want to meet and date a man who can  demonstrate he's got a good head on his  shoulders  that he's competent enough to achieve  his goals as a high value  man.


3. Establishing boundaries :



   I wasn't even aware that she found that  attractive,  i just said that to reinforce my  boundaries of being considerate towards  my time.  She told me that she's done that before  on other dates but  she never got called out on it and you  know it's funny you'd think that by  calling her out on being rude on a date. It would upset her or get her defensive  but in fact the opposite happened. She respected and really liked the fact that  i was able to calmly get my point across  without being overly  aggressive.  When you establish  boundaries,  you let the other person know that you  value yourself  that you have a spine and when you carry  yourself  with that self-respect. Women will pick  up on it and subconsciously  find you to be high value. Establishing  your boundaries tells women  that you have a clear idea of what you  accept and what you don't accept from  other people  and when women sense that you're the  type to stand up for yourself  when someone crosses your boundaries, they find it very attractive  because if you can stand up to her then , it tells her that you'd also stand up  for her if someone were to try and harm  her or screw her over  so definitely make it a habit of  establishing your boundaries.



4. Understanding nonverbal cues :



   One thing, a lot of guys struggle with when it comes to flirting  with women  is understanding their body language and  i realize that's cause most men are more  concerned with the  surface level stuff, the words being said  between you and her  rather than the underlying vibe. You see  over  60 percent of human communication is  done  non-verbally. The way she looks at you  how much she's leaning into your space, the tone of her voice whether it's  inviting or standoffish. All of these are examples of non-verbal  ways that girls  also let you know how she feels about  you and if you can pick up on these  nonverbal cue.  You can calibrate to however she's  feeling in the moment  if she's disinterested you can pull back  a bit as well  and if she's being a bit flirtier, you'll  know to make a move  a man who understands how to read  nonverbal cues  is to women very sexy. Because he's a guy who gets it, it's almost like that james bond  quality where you can read a girl's mind  and know exactly what to do  and when to do it to get her going crazy  for you.  

 For example, let's say a girl you've been  flirting with kinda smiles  looks at you in the eye and says oh so  you wanted to dance with me  well what makes you think i'm just gonna  let you dance with me now  a guy who doesn't understand how to pick  up on nonverbal cues. We'll take these words literally, he'll  think 'oh damn' maybe i should stop  looks like she doesn't want to dance  instead of looking at her body language. But a man who does understand her  nonverbal cues however  will realize, she's just saying that  as a little test. I think we both know she wants to  dance with me just as much as i want to  dance with her  and she'll proceed to make a move  anyways that's the difference between a  man who does  and who doesn't know how to read body  language.


5. Culltivating a man-to-woman mindset :


   Another thing i notice, a lot of guys have problems with nowadays  is with being comfortable in their  masculinity. When they talk to girls, they give off way too much of a friendly, platonic vibe instead of a flirty  man-to-woman vibe. This is the biggest reason why men  end up in the friend zone  because they're too hesitant with  letting their masculine energy  shine through in their interactions , instead they play it safe and act  friendly with the woman that they like  and then all of a sudden they'll ask for  a date or a number out of nowhere and of course 9 times out  of 10 the girl will reject him because, she'll be completely blindsided by it . After all why would a girl go on a date  with you if she didn't even know you  guys were  flirting in the first place so the next  time you find yourself with the girl  you're really into  practice cultivating a man to woman vibe, learn how to flirt both with your words and with your body language. You'll naturally be used  to being in your masculine. When girls meet a guy that's comfortable  with showing this part of himself, she'll naturally want to be more  feminine around him because it's like  yin and yang  masculine will attract feminine whereas  a neutral  friend zone vibe will attract the same thing.


Article from Aakash:)